Sunday, January 10, 2016

January 10th meeting 1:30-4:30 @ Oklahoma National Memorial and Museum with "picture" minutes

Youth LEAD OKC is a cultural competency program sponsored by the YMCA of Greater Oklahoma City, Casady High School Service Learning Program, and Mercy School Institute.  It is funded by the Oklahoma City YMCA, Teen Initiatives Program and in-kind donations from participating schools and non profit organizations such as the Respect Diversity Foundation.

YLOKC is a branch of Sharon, Massachusetts based Youth Lead Online.

Youth LEAD OKC experiences are developed, planned, and implemented by teens for teens.  Youth LEAD teens come from a wide range of ethnic, cultural, economic, and faith backgrounds.  Youth LEADers explore their own identities as well as their similarities and differences and act together to build the next generation of community and global leaders.

For example, Youth LEAD OKC students worked all semester to fine tune their diversity leadership skills and chose to address a need to help other teens.   YLOKC project for 2015 was the Teens4Teens project.

The Teens4-teens project partnered with Metro Tech Career Academy to help provide teen clothing to their teens and then had an amazing, fun filled, deep thinking afternoon that encompassed one of the most diverse groups of teens I have ever seen working together in the same room.

Sunday, January 10, 2016
1:30-4:30 pm

Oklahoma National Memorial and Museum

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      Map of oklahoma city national memorial
    Oklahoma City National Memorial 
    The Oklahoma City National Memorial is a memorial in the United States that honors the victims, survivors, rescuers, and all who were affected by the Oklahoma City bombing on April 19, 1995. Wikipedia
    Address620 N Harvey Ave, Oklahoma City, OK 73102
    EstablishedOctober 9, 1997

18 participants total

Planning Team
Planning team met a few minutes early to prepare grapes ice breaker and place food in Museum's kitchen.  Special thanks to the staff that accommodated us beautifully.  There was no time for anything else.

Carmen provided a donation check to Shannon from Respect Diversity Foundation.  Thank you RDF!

Meeting was facilitated by Park Ranger , Mrs. Lynne Porter, ONMM Education Director helped by Carmen, Johnny, Mallory, Daniela, Ryan, and Shannon.  Tickets of $12 per person were provided by the Museum to YLeaders and mentors.  The only expectation was to learn and advocate for the mission, vision and purpose of the museum with other teens.  

1. Welcome- Grapes Cultural Activity for New Year's by planning team
January 10, 2016
2. Outdoor Symbolic Memorial Tour with Ranger .  It was very cold.  We started a few minutes late as we did not program the icebreaker in the schedule.  Shakir twins and Hallie arrived a few minutes into the experience.

3. Museum Tour - Self Directed.  Amazing new interactive features and organization of the museum.  The museum was renovated in 2014.  Many teens had visited the Memorial, but for all this was the first experience inside the museum.  We did not have time to debrief, but hope they will decide to come back to spend the day at the Museum on MLK Day, when the day will be facilitated by YLOKCasady led by Daniela R.  Sign up at   Details of the Memorial MLK Service Opportunity at 

4.  Snack time:  Rosca de Reyes by Daniela, Cupcakes and water  by Shannon

   5. Lab time Forensics Lesson facilitated by Mrs. Lynne  Porter.  Invitation to come back on MLK Day for a whole day of learning about the museum to advocate for the Oklahoma Standard.   

 Why?  Skills demonstrated

OK Standard


Resilience, Kindness,  Service,Honor

Reflection and Feedback: On parking lot until February meeting------------------------------------------------------------------------------

From Roots and Wings- Tabitha  

The gift and skill of being a better listener

We have identified 13 important skills for you to use to develop yourself as a leader and for mentoring others. We refer to these skills as R.a.W. (Roots And Wings) Skills. 
                                              These R.a.W. skills are:  
                   Empowering young people                                     Motivating Others      
                   Failing Gloriously                                                  Mentoring Others
                   Setting Goals                                                       Engaging diversity
                   Having difficult conversations                                Listening
                   Asking questions                                                  Telling your story
                   Creating a safe spaces                                         Honoring process and product
                   Giving and receiving feedback
Listen for Understanding 
Here are some tips for genuine listening:
  • Give your full attention to the person who is speaking. Look at them, don't look out the window or at what else is going on in the room.                  
  • Make sure your mind is focused. It can be easy to let your mind wander if you think you know what the person is going to say next, but you might be wrong! If you feel your mind wandering, change the position of your body and try to concentrate on the speaker's words.
  • Let the speaker finish before you begin to talk. Speakers appreciate having the chance to say everything they would like to say without being interrupted. When you interrupt, it looks like you aren't listening, even if you really are.
  • Let yourself finish listening before you begin to speak! You can't really listen if you are busy thinking about what you want say next.
  • Listen for main ideas. The main ideas are the most important points the speaker wants to get across. They may be mentioned at the start or end of a talk, and repeated a number of times. Pay special attention to statements that begin with phrases such as "My point is..." or "The thing to remember is..."
  • Ask questions. If you are not sure you understand what the speaker has said, just ask. It is a good idea to repeat in your own words what the speaker said so that you can be sure your understanding is correct. For example, you might say, "When you said that no two zebras are alike, did you mean that the stripes are different on each one?"
  • Give feedback. Sit up straight and look directly at the speaker. (Keep in mind any cultural considerations regarding eye contact). Now and then, nod to show that you understand. At appropriate points you may also smile, frown, laugh, or be silent. These are all ways to let the speaker know that you are really listening. Remember, you listen with your face as well as your ears!
  • Listening for understanding and nothing else. Focus on listening for the pure intent of understanding the speaker better. Let go of being right, identifying the things that they are saying that you disagree with or don’t like and all the ways you want to respond. Simply listen with the goal of understanding.